One of the most destructive lies the enemy uses is the lie that you are alone. You have your own battles to fight. No one would love you if they knew "fill in the blank" about you. He is very crafty and even convinces people that the Bible says things that it doesn't say like, "God never gives you more than you can handle" or "God helps those who help themselves." What? Where is that scripture? On top of the enemy’s lies, our culture affirms this mindset both in the church and outside. What does the Bible really tell us about walking through this crazy, and at times seemingly brutal life? It tells us we were not designed to do this alone or in isolation. It's so clear from the very beginning, and yet we often muddy the truth because of our own life circumstances and what we've been taught.
So let's go back to the very beginning...God was creating and after every day of creation, God said it was good. Then we see God point out one thing He declares “not good.” Genesis 2:18, God says, "It is not good for man to be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him." Adam was NOT alone at that moment. He had the God that just made this incredible earth and the whole universe and they were in perfect relationship because there was no sin. But God said it wasn’t good that he was alone – the lone human in the world. Earlier in Genesis 1:26, we find God saying, “Let US make man in OUR image after OUR likeness." Who is the "we" and "us" referring to? It has to be the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. And you know what? They've been living in perfect unity since, well, ALWAYS and it is in that likeness that we were created. Yes, we are each unique and lovingly made for the Father, but we are also clearly made in such a way to bring our gifts and talents to the table to partner with the Body of Christ for His good pleasure and purposes.
Let's take this concept even deeper. I've always loved Ephesians 3:14-19
“For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named, that according to the riches of his glory he may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with ALL THE SAINTS what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.”
I’ve always taken that particular passage to mean all the people currently in the Body of Christ and really more just in my realm of life. I think we all know the passage in I Corinthians 12:12-27 famously titled “One Body, Many Parts” and we can hopefully see that in our own churches and communities. It’s so important for each believer to ask the Lord what their individual role is in the part of the Body that they are called. It’s amazing when people begin to walk in their different callings and giftings to see what God can do through His body. That is one application of that passage of scripture and it is good.
However, I read something a few months ago that blew my mind! I was reading through Hebrews 11, “The Hall of Faith” chapter, and something in the last two verses struck me. Verses 39-40 say, “And all these ((Noah, Abraham, David), though commended through their faith, did not receive what was promised, since God had provided something better for US that apart from US they should not be made perfect”. So the writer of Hebrews is saying that all those people who are written about in the scriptures, the spiritual giants of the past cannot be made perfect without US. Our faith, our walk, our love for Jesus is part of [Moses, Joseph, Sarah, Rahab]’s faith being brought to completion. I’m still chewing on that…
One thing I know for sure. I need my family. I need my brothers and sisters in the faith because this world truly is a struggle. This world is not how God intended it to be and I cannot live and thrive and love well without the other believers God has placed in my life. I am completely loved, cherished and accepted because of Jesus, but I am also not meant to walk this life alone. This was most apparent to me and my family through the recent adoption of our 5th son. I can’t tell his whole story yet to protect the privacy of the birth family, but I will say that our adoption was fully funded by several close friends as well as a family whom we’ve never met, a group of believers was praying and contending for his life a few months ago when the enemy would have had him aborted, a dear friend was the connection that brought our birth family and us together and we have been given every single necessity for him including about 6 months worth of diapers and breastmilk . There was literally an army of believers that brought this precious life into our family. We knew the Lord called us to adopt. We were faithful to step out and pursue it through the agency we felt called to, but we could have never brought him into our family on our own. It is truly staggering and humbling and I’m certain that we don’t know the full story yet.
So my dear sisters in the Lord, do not entertain for one more day the notion that you have to carry your pain, shame, fear or guilt alone. I love I John 1:5-10 that encourages us to walk in the light and confess our sins to one another. It’s the most free and life giving way to live. I don’t know how many times I’ve struggled with something, finally confessed it to my inner circle of praying girlfriends and then suddenly it’s not an issue anymore. There are so many ways to apply this principle to your walk. And however you do it, don’t do it alone. If you aren’t involved in a church, find one that feels like home. If you attend a church, but don’t feel connected, join a small group in that church or ask for places that are in need of service. It’s so important. And it’s how we were created. People are imperfect, and at times, you will feel hurt by them. Only Jesus will never hurt you. But it’s worth it to put aside your offense and forgive. It’s worth it, because HE is worth it. And HE is glorified when believers live and dwell in love, humility and unity.